New Rules for Plus Sizes

The fans over on Facebook know how much the term "plus-size" irks me. I always watch "America's Next Top Model" with the sad realization that if, through some complete lapse in judgment, I became a contestant on that show, I would have to stump for plus sizes, despite being fairly average sized. And have you been watching the Lane Bryant controversy with plus-size model Ashley Graham? Her commercials were pulled off the air for having "too much cleavage" while Victoria's Secret ads still ran all hours of the day. I actually saw her on Leno the other night and her body is crazy. CRAZY.

The problem with the whole "plus size" thing is that plus size is actually average in the States, so does that mean anyone smaller than a 6 or 8 should be "minus size"? It's confusing.

The thing is, I get it. Once upon a time, I Was an impossibly tiny size 2. With each pregnancy I've gained a size. I've stayed the same weight, but my body is totally redistributed from all of that good stuff pregnancy and childbirth has to offer (bed rest, anyone? omg worst.) By the way, thanks to my lovely children, A and A. With each pregnancy I've had to learn to readjust my opinion of my body and learn to dress it all over again. And each time I've had to get over my fitting room fears and buck up and do it.

When I was in Canada, one of my oldest friends (not old in the sense of age, but old in the sense that she's known me since I was a baby) mentioned how hard it was to find good clothes for plus sizes and admonished me to put more on the blog about plus sizes and the like. I am happily obliging, because this week that's all we'll focus on. What to wear, where to shop, what not to buy, and how to come to grips with your size.

The first rule doesn't need a fancy outfit picture. It's DRESS THE BODY YOU HAVE. No matter if you need to lose a few pounds, that shouldn't mean that you have to feel like crap until you drop a fiver, you know? You deserve to look good NOW and dress your body well, whether you're a size 2 or a 22. Don't wear sweats because you don't want to buy a pair of jeans until you drop a few. Because that's only giong to perpetuate a cycle of not feeling good about yourself, and that's silly.

Second rule? Monochromatic looks are just as slimming as all black.

Items in this set:
Coral 'Caris' cardigan, 39 GBP
Old Navy Womens Coffee Grounds Plus Size Boot-Cut Perfect Khakis, $33
Flats - Shoes, $23
Old Navy Womens Zipper-Pocket Canvas Handbags, $24
Brown floral cuff watch, 25 GBP

We've talked about this before. That there is *some* truth the "black is slimming" rule of the olden days. But now we know it's the color palette that does more than the actual color black. Pairing up different shades of the same color gives you a long lovely line. AND if you accessorize with a pop of color, you don't look so dang depressed. Place the color near your face. It'll brighten your whole look and draw the eye upward. Above, the outfit works because of the browns. Then, layering a crisp shirt with a sweater gives you extra coverage for problem areas. Belts are SO your friends. Place it at the smallest part of your waist, wherever that might be. It'll be different on just about everyone. Then you'll have legs for days. Also, remember to carry a bag in proportion to your size. I don't like seeing a tiny purse under the arm of someone who should be carrying a satchel or something. How cute is this outfit for shopping and everyday? I love.

Third rule? SHOW. SOME. FREAKIN'. LEG.

Items in this set:
Arden B Kimono Sleeve Tie Wrap, $44
Not Your Daughters Jeans - Plus Size Emma Pencil Skirt Classic Overdye..., $98
Plus Size Clothing, Basic Tank Tops, Spaghetti Straps, for Women, $15
Carlo Fellini N009, $38
Gunmetal cascading disc post earrings, 6 GBP

Okay, I actually get mad when plus size girls cover up their legs with long skirts and dresses. Your legs are awesome and shapely, I promise. When paired with a pencil skirt and peeptoe shoes, the look is so Jessica Rabbit and feminine. Everyone is always afraid that pencil skirts will accentuate the hips. YES, THAT'S THE POINT. Of course, if you really feel uncomfortable in one, an a-line skirt will work just fine. But show off some kickin' curves by choosing a shirt that has full coverage, but a super defined waist line. AND, as an added bonus, a pencil skirt can kind of "tuck" you in for a more streamlined look. When it comes to clutches, keep it on the larger side. Something with a lot of details will work best. It's just plain sexy, which you can be at any size. Seriously. Your husband will love it.

Rule four? Step out with layers.

Items in this set:
Plus Size Club Wear, Sexy Plus Size Clothing, Dresses, and Tops for..., $68
Plus Size Club Wear, Sexy Plus Size Clothing, Dresses, and Tops for..., $28
Old Navy Womens Dark Wash Womens Plus Size Low-Rise Boot-Cut Jeans, $25
AK Anne Klein Catherine Pumps, $50
Shop Shoulder Bags, Totes and other Handbags at the ALDO Shoes Online..., $30

First of all, HOW AMAZING IS THIS JACKET? And only $68. Buy immediately, I believe it comes in sizes up to 2XL and it is a perfect, non-chubby girl topper. This look is more for a date night or girl's night out. Get some dark-wash denim. It'll make the leg look long and lean. Fit the largest part of your leg, usually the hip or thigh, and tailor the jeans back if you must. Make good friends with a tailor. Pointy shoes give the illusion that the leg is extending past the jean, which makes your legs look longer overall. A shirt with a banded bottom gives you plenty of coverage, but layering it with lots of necklaces and a seriously killer leather jacket keeps the look interesting and not at all frumpy. When choosing a jacket for layering, look for one that ALREADY has a feminine shape on the hanger. You should be able to see darting and construction that looks feminine before you even put it on. Stay away from boxy shapes and collars, they'll add weight to you. Seriously, this one is awesome.

Finally, rule number five? Get over your label. Yes, the fashion industry calls you "plus sized" but you're in good company. Just because your magazine or commercial makes you feel like the ONLY one doesn't mean it's true. Take a good friend, go shopping and think outside the box a little. Stop trying to hide your body, and start looking for ways to accentuate to positive. Have a great rack? Wear a sweetheart neckline. Killer legs? Look for skirts or shorts. Teensy waist? Blow your money on waist-defining belts.

Alright, we've officially kicked off PLUS SIZE WEEK. (Imagine confetti falling from the sky. Sorry if I just messed up your computer room.) Next up? You're going to get the list of where to shop for plus sizes. Are you excited? I AM!